Ever since the birth of the human race, one thing that has been a constant is evolution. We evolved from walking on fours to walking on twos, invented fire and the wheel, became settled farmers instead of being hunters, invented so many things to help us grow (if I start mentioning each one, I’d probably be dead by the time I finish) and whatnot. We made a lot of mistakes but we sure did learn from them. But all through this journey, one characteristic of man that hasn’t changed is Judgement.
Judgement has become our bread and butter which is served so quickly that you wish the same speed can be achieved in a courtroom. “Whatever you do, people will always judge you.” has become a saying of sorts. Right from when we come into this world, an aunty/uncle/grandmother/grandfather will go “He looks just like his father. Hope he turns out just like him.” and that’s it. Our life from thereon will be focused on aping our father. If you want to go out and play, people will say that you don’t study enough and if you decide to stay indoors and study, the same people will go “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” If you decide to take up a lesser known course in college; they decide that your 12th standard marks are of unspeakable levels.
It doesn’t end there. Professors judge us based on marks or as they like to call it – academic performance. What’s more saddening is that people of our age, our college mates, continue the deed. People judge you on your choice of friend down to your choice of hairstyle. Feelings will be trampled upon like fallen leaves.
People often mistake judgement to be an opinion. An opinion is one’s view or suggestion on a certain matter which is given straight to the person concerned. For example, “You’ll probably score more runs if you slightly adjust your posture.” is an opinion. Whereas judgement is a conclusive statement which may or may not be given straight to the face of the person concerned. For example, “I guarantee that you’ll never score runs because your posture is the worst.” is an outright judgement.
It maybe too late. We may have reached a point in our evolution wherein it is virtually impossible to eradicate judgement, but I am an optimistic man. I wish a time will come where people aren’t judged in every walk of their lives. I hope I have sowed a seed towards achieving that goal. After all, today’s seeds are tomorrow’s trees.
Finally, a note to parents: “What will society think?” is not a valid reason to force your children to alter their life decisions. Society is going to judge no matter what you decide to do. So let them at least be judged for what they like to do and not for something they hate already.
But then again, this is just my Opinion.